I’m sure before you had kids, you dreamt about the time you would get to spend with them. You loved the idea of when they were young where you could sleep in, stay in your jammies, do what you’d like, and be your own boss. Before you knew it, those toddlers have grown and are ready for school. While this is an exciting time, you can’t help but feel a piece of you is gone. You might be unsure what your future holds and how things will change.
When both of my kids went to school, I found that I had 7:45 – 3p to myself. It was exciting, but also was unsure what I was supposed to do with this time. Soon I felt like I was lost and didn’t know how to find my purpose. I could go back to work, but who would take care of the kids after school and during the summer. I would basically be working for daycare. It took me awhile to figure out my “Motherhood Why”.
With my “Motherhood Why” and these 6 habits I felt like I could take on the world and be happy and thrive in this new chapter in my life. I’d love to share these 6 habits with you.
Schedule Your Day Out
So, I know that the whole purpose and easiness of being a stay at home mom is that you can do whatever you want whenever you want. The truth is that when you lay around in your jammies and don’t plan to do anything, you’ll end up laying on the couch all day watching TV and get nothing done. I don’t turn the tv on at all day, just because it will suck you in. Then, at the end of the day you’ll look back and even though you didn’t really do anything you’ll still feel exhausted. Instead plan ahead.
Make a to-do list. Have a schedule of times and dates for special things like school, family events, and work schedules. If you know something is coming up, be ready for it ahead of it. Plan your day out and make it productive. You will feel much better about what you did for the day when you have a plan and accomplish it.
Make Friends and Spend Time with Them
Moms are special and other moms get it. Look, none of us are perfect and we all go through a lot when taking care of kids, cleaning, cooking, etc. Other moms aren’t going to judge you. My friends and I go to lunch once or twice a month. It is a great time to catch up on what everyone is doing and enjoy their company.
Don’t Be Afraid to Try New Things
Now is the time to celebrate this new schedule. Is there something you always wanted to learn or wanted to do? You can taking a cooking class, learn a new skill, join a book club, explore a new part of town, etc.
One of my greatest fears is becoming stagnant. I feel like when you have a job you have plenty of opportunities to be social, do critical thinking, goal setting, etc. When you are home alone all day, you don’t necessarily have those opportunities. Getting out and trying new things helps us grow as a person, and feel accomplishment.
Be a Volunteer
I still spend a few days a week helping out at my kid’s school. I love getting to know the staff and the kid’s teachers. They know they can count on me if they need something. f you have the time, volunteer. You can volunteer at your child’s school. I’m sure they would love to see you in the hallways. Or pick a local charity, food bank, hospital, etc to volunteer at. You can do this as often as you’d like.
I’m not saying to start running marathons or hanging out at the gym for hours a day everyday, but get moving. It is healthy for your mind and body to exercise and move. It will also help you feel better. So, find a friend and go for a walk. Take your dog to the dog park. Try a new fitness class or yoga. Find something that you love and will enjoy doing.
Get Dressed and Take Care of Yourself
I feel like this is a big one. Even though you are tempted to stay in those workout clothes all day, don’t do it. Take a shower, get ready, and put on something that will make you feel good about yourself. You will be surprised by how much better you feel about yourself when you get ready for the day. Even if you don’t make it out of the house besides to grab your kids.
There will always be laundry to do, dishes to be washed, carpets to be vaccummed, and floors to mop. Don’t spend all your time doing chores. There will also be days you just want to sit on the couch and binge watch Netflix. Don’t let those days happen too often. Take these new habits and celebrate the new found time. Be productive and grow as a person. You were a women before you became a mother – she still counts.
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