I like to think maybe it is just innocent small talk, but far too often, it feels quite judgmental. It started out as, “So, what do you do all day?” Then, as each of my kids advanced to the next child started into school, it would repeatedly, inevitably be, “So, what are you going to do with all that extra time?” I have felt my fair share of guilt over being a stay at home mom. There have been days when I failed to get the laundry done, or dinner on the table on time. I often feel like there are more chores than I have time for. I have thought about all those working boss babes that do seem to pull it all together to do everything and manage to bring in a paycheck.
When my kids were little it was definitely hard to keep up the house work, but has they have gotten older it has gotten easier. They are more helpful around the house.
Now that summer is over and the kids headed back to school that question of “What are you going to do with your time” is coming back and the anxiety increases of uncertainty. What am I going to do? What is the right answer? As much as I would love to join the workforce, is it really worth it? After many thoughts and discussions with my hubby, I finally came with a decision. I am going to stop feeling guilty, inadequate about being a stay at home mom. I will embrace this opportunity and I am going to own it! So here are 6 reasons I am going to continue to be a stay at home mom even after all the kids are in school.
1. Because I can and want to.
Well, it is the truth. We have been blessed with a great job that can provide for all of us. My husband knew from the beginning this is what I wanted. We aren’t wealthy, but I have realized how fortunate we are to be able to do this. We live comfortable on one income, but stick to our budget. The extra money would be nice, but I want to focus my time and effort on things that have more meaning.
2. To be available.
This is one of my top reason. The truth is school is only about 180 days of the year, and we never scramble when the kids are sick. One of the things working parents struggle with is finding affordable, trusted child care to cover the days of no school or unexpected sick days. As a stay at home mom you don’t have to worry about that. You are available if and when the kids need you.
We all know that teachers have a hard job. They have plenty of things to do and not enough time to get it all done. Volunteering at the school for a day or a couple hours a week helps keep the load off of our teachers. Plus you get to know the faculty and your children’s teacher on a personal level. It is a win for everyone. Or pick a local charity, food bank, hospital, etc to volunteer at. You can do this as often as you’d like.
4. To Be Better.
At everything. There is more to life than just being a mother. You were someone before you had kids. Let that person free to become better. This new found time will open windows to new opportunities to grow as a person and not just a stay at home mom. Is there something you always wanted to learn or wanted to do? You can taking a cooking class, learn a new skill, join a book club, explore a new part of town, etc.
One of my greatest fears is becoming stagnant. I feel like when you have a job you have plenty of opportunities to be social, do critical thinking, goal setting, etc. When you are home alone all day, you don’t necessarily have those opportunities. Getting out and trying new things helps us grow as a person, and feel accomplishment.
5. Be a Momprenuer.
Being a Momprenuer is a neologism defined as a female business owner who is actively balancing the role of mom and the role of entrepreneur. Being a stay at home mom doesn’t mean you have to solely work on household chores, it also gives you a chance to start that business you always wanted to. Whether it is a side hustle, a jobby (hobby/job), or a creative outlet. There are so many great ways to make the most out of your past experiences, skills, and your current schedule.
I have found having a supportive community will help you along the way. Be sure to check out our Momprenuer Society for content creators on Facebook. Click here to join the community.
6. Because life is short.
Life is short and also of how none of us know what lies around tomorrow’s corner for ourselves or our loved ones. When it comes down to it, the thing we value more than another paycheck is time together. By my continuing to stay home, we can maximize our family time.
I can do the chores and errands during the weekdays so we do not have to do them on our evenings or weekends. I believe that making fun, long-lasting memories together trumps everything else.
So, what am I going to do next year? Enjoy it and not be afraid to show it.
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